For most—if not all—married couples (or couples who are about to marry), the topic of divorce is taboo. If you’re going to even consider separating, why get married in the first place, right? But death… now, that is pretty much inevitable and, more often than not, unexpected. That’s exactly why it should be on the “things to talk about before the wedding” list of any couple…
But what I’m trying to point out here is not about the importance of having a will (talk to a notary about that) or dealing with grief. This is about preparing for a scenario where one spouse will have to play the role of two people. So, do you and your partner both know how to cook and how to pay each different monthly bill and when the car needs to be taken in for maintenance and what the password for your online banking account is?
It gets even more complicated if you have kids: Suddenly, you’re the only role model they have, as well as the only link to both sides of their extended family.
Yes, this is a very grim topic. But if you and your partner (or future partner) can be prepared to face death, then what else could possibly stop you?