Would you believe it when somebody in a relationship says she never fights with her partner? Of course not! Fighting is a natural part of being in a relationship, no? Still, some people believe that we can improve the way we fight. One popular method I often hear people throw around is ‘active listening’, where one partner says what’s troubling her, emphasizing on how she feels (e.g., “When you watch TV all day, I feel ignored…”), then the other first acknowledges what has been said (e.g., “Okay, so what you’re saying is that when I watch TV all day you feel ignored…”) before responding, and so on.
Most of my friends who are happily in a long-term relationship or happily married, however, think that fighting like that is stupid (e.g., “When I hear people talking like that, it makes me want to puke…”)